Where does the time go?

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My grandmother, born in 1886 near Atlanta, Georgia, used to say to me, “the hurrier I go the behinder I get”. How true! As I have progressed through my formative years – graduate school and professional life, now a second career – I have come to appreciate, first hand, my grandmother’s statement. It now has a rich contextual meaning that it did not when I first heard it as a teenager.

A philosophy professor of mine once said, “Wisdom can never be taught. It must be lived”. There is some truth in his statement. However, I am still not so sure that we cannot learn practical wisdom across generations. I sure hope that we can and will. If we cannot, and will not, the costs to ourselves, our society, our planet will be immeasurable.

I recently read a reflection by a young woman, Brigitte, who quoted her nine year old son: “the key to speed is not to hurry”. Brigitte urges me (us) to be ‘mindful’ of societal ‘brainwashing’ that has the effect of compelling me, pushing us, to increase the speed of life at nearly any cost.

Where does the time go?
Koala Crossing sign on the road between Geelong and Lorne in Australia, by Dave Cooper.

Brigitte’s entry and my recent experiences with a very special presencing gathering in Yarrambat, Australia, have caused me to slow down, to pause, and to listen. Presencing, a blend of the words presence and sensing, refers to the ability to sense and bring into the present one’s highest future potential — as an individual and as a group (from Presencing Institute).

Where does the time go?

Apollo 11 is the mission that first landed a person on the moon, July 20, 1969.

Times are changing. Our journeys through these times, and the ways we respond, individually and collectively, yield both good and the not so good. My grandmother lived through the times of horse and buggies, the advent of the automobile, heavier than air flight, and a person walking on the moon. From our home in Florida, we watched the Saturn Five, Apollo lunar missions that were initiated by President John F. Kennedy in the early 1960’s. These late 19th and 20th century discoveries and the amazing changes they initiated have yielded much. Yet, I can’t begin to imagine what my grandmother must have experienced as the speed of life around her increased exponentially: what a blur. We are witnessing similar exponential change in the 21st century.

I remember a marketing phrase from the early 1970’s. I think it was IBM that coined it: The “new” computer will increase productivity so much that workers will have three day weekends. The reciprocal has proven to be true. In the U.S., we do much more work and have far less time in which to slow down, to pause: where is that three day weekend?

The goal of creating increased leisure time in order to spend some of it with family, friends, and in our communities is embedded in the computerization marketing message of the 1970’s. Of course, in America, increased leisure (quality) time has not been realized. Over the past thirty or so years, we have experienced the financial necessity of multiple wage earners in our families. We work longer hours so we can consume more stuff at a faster pace, then rush home to hurriedly finish our day so we can slow down.

Having returned from a wonderful time in Australia, and taking time to reflect upon the wisdom imparted to me by friends, former strangers (now friends), and family, I have slowed my pace. I pause. I listen attentively. I am present and sensing. Even with multiple competing demands, I make time for conversation. I enjoy a coffee or tea at a café. I give my family members an extra hug. I correspond with people in my communities, both near and far. I am actively and passively participating in presencing for the well-being (or shalom) of one another, our communities, and our planet.

Where does the time go?
Kafe Kaos in the seaside village of Lorne in Australia, by Dave Cooper.

The Hebrew word for whole-community well-being is shalom. While shalom encompasses much more than can be translated into English, shalom is manifested when there is shared power, equity and mutual beneficence among physical, social, economic, political and spiritual organizations, institutions, and systems. Shalom is not simply a transcendent hope; rather, it is a concrete, tangible, proactive, wise, investment of all resources (including time) to work in concert for the common good.

I am deeply engaged with shalom-making in communities across the United States and abroad. I facilitate, train, coach, support, and advocate for shalom-makers as an independent consultant and via the Drew University Shalom Initiative. I apply Asset Based Community Development and community organizing principles and techniques to help communities develop and achieve their own outcomes. Shalom-making is not easy and not for the timid. It is an emergent, locally-led, co-creating, bold, sustained, and collaborative endeavor for the healthy and whole transformation of the communities in which we live, work, learn, and play. I am a shalom-maker: enlarging the circle of community for the common good.

This post also appears on http://colabradio.mit.edu/.

In an upcoming entry, look for more on Australia and the wonderful people that I met and worked with there.

Shalom in the journey

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November 2010 and early December have been filled to overflowing with wonderful opportunities to learn from and share with an exceptionally talented array of world-class, globally connected, creative, practitioners of Asset Based Community Development on two continents.

In my journey from the East to the West coast of the United States and back again; and, into and around Melbourne, Australia, I have enjoyed and been enriched by new and renewed connections with friends and colleagues that are deeply devoted to shalom-making: though they may not use the word “shalom” to describe it. From sociologists, psychologists, theologians, artists, and entrepreneurs of many types; to corporate executives, social workers, farmers, social activists, chefs and baristas, and spanning at least three languages, the relationships and mutual learning have been in two words: marvelously rich!

Reflecting upon particularly the past couple of months, I have learned at least three key things (actually much more than three) from my relationships, consulting, facilitating, and collaborating through the Uniting Church of Australia and Tasmania Commission for Mission and the Drew University Shalom Initiative.

First, I have a newfound sense of journeys as sacred spaces in which God’s creative and creating spirit beckons us into paths of deeper presence and communion with God, with one’s self, and with the community by which to energize and resource common good (shalom-making). Much like Otto Scharmer posits in his Theory U, and as Adrian Pyle applies to spiritual journeys, being fully present with an open mind, heart and will (“presencing”) in the places and times that our journeys take us will open opportunities for profoundly powerful and transformative interactions with other journeyers. As I learned and re-learn in new ways in the second half of my life, it is more about the journey and the relationships along the way than it is the destination. Sacred space is in the journey, not just the destination.

Second, journeys are catalyzed by Power that transcends place, time, and one’s current sense of purpose. For example, as I shared with friends and colleagues in Australia, my great grandparents purposed to migrate from England to Australia in the 1840’s; however, their plans were not to be realized at that time in history. On the other hand, I am the first of my family to visit Australia, carrying with me a sense of sacred purpose that is likely different (though who knows) from my great grandparents. As my life’s journey continues, perhaps I will have a better understanding of the meaning of the relationships and purposes along the way. Finally, in my understanding of systems theories, the impacts of purposed “presencing” in the sacred spaces of intersecting journeys will yield ripple effects across time that transcend our human capacity to understand or measure.

Third, as Desmond Tutu taught in my class with him at Emory University Candler School of Theology, “ubuntu” (becoming human through other humans) requires seeking, affirming, and celebrating the “imago dei” (imprint or image of God) that every human possesses; and, to seek, affirm and celebrate diversity and common values in culturally relevant, community-building, spiritually-renewing, life-giving, liberating ways. Among the diversity of peoples, cultures, and geographies with whom I have had the pleasure to recently work, I rejoice in, am thankful for, and celebrate the nascent presence of the Spirit which yields faith, hope and love.

I have witnessed the presence, activity and flourishing of shalom among the peoples and places along my journey: clearly, God is up to something new and refreshing. The wind of the Spirit blows where it wills; therefore, my mission, your mission, our mission is to be authentically present and open to the transformative power of God that is able to accomplish (among and through us) far more than we could ask for or even imagine.

More on Australia in my next blog entry…

DC (12/08/2010)